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Stop
Nail Biting Habit
Does your toddler bite his nails?
Nip this habit in the bud, or it may last for the rest of his
life.
Saeed bites his nails. So do a
lot of other children, but there’s a difference here. Saeed is
no child. He’s a 35-year-old man, and he still bites his nails
till they bleed.
When does
Saeed bite his nails?
- Saeed bites his nails at
home, when he’s playing the host to unfamiliar people.
- He bites his nails at the
office, when he’s faced with a deadline.
- He bites his nails when
he’s watching the television and is absorbed in the plot.
- He bites his nails when
he’s bored.
- And, he bites his nails
when he’s hungry!
The result? His children bite
their nails too, and every time Saeed or his wife asks them to
stop, they retort by saying, “Daddy bites his nails too! If
Daddy can bite them, so can we.”
So what’s a
man to do?
Saeed is too old to visit a
child guidance clinic, and, apart from constant reminders, there
is little anyone can do to help him. The habit is strong, and
nothing short of tremendous will power will really be of any
use.
Why does
Saeed bite his nails?
Saeed did not have the most
pleasant of childhoods. His parents used to fight constantly and
could never agree on anything. Saeed’s house was a battlefield,
and as a result he grew up confused and insecure. Well, it may
be too late to change him now, but his wife is sure of one thing
- she will do whatever it takes to ensure a warm, secure home
environment for her children.
Why do kids
bite their nails?
As is with any habit disorder,
the main cause is insecurity in the infant, early weaning or
long hours of absence of the mother from the child’s sight. When
so young, all children need to feel that their mother is close
by. If not, a subconscious sense of insecurity begins to creep
in, which affects their social and emotional interactions. They
begin to feel as if friends or even family will not accept them.
Such children are not able to face the demands of their
environment and these emotional scars remain with them all their
lives.
Nail biting also signifies
nervousness, and, later on in life, before you know it, it’s
turned into an uncontrollable habit.
What can be
done?
As we can see, nail biting is
a habit disorder, which may be overlooked in children, but when
that child continues to rip at his nails even as he becomes an
adult, you have a problem. This psychological problem should be
tackled at a very early stage, for if left uncorrected, it can
last for a lifetime. This child is normally quite nervous and
jumpy as he is embarrassed by his own behavioral disorder.
Unfortunately, since he starts biting his nails unconsciously,
it is difficult for him to stop. In extreme cases, fingers can
also start bleeding.
Solutions...
Keep
his hands occupied
Simply correcting the child is
not enough. Give him something to occupy his hands with. Some
children bite their nails because they are fidgety. So, if they
have something to fidget with, they may get distracted.
Observe him
When does your child bite his
nails? Is it when he is watching television? Is it when he is
studying? Once you pinpoint a few ‘areas of temptation’, you
could perhaps give him cotton gloves or finger puppets to wear
during those times.
Something bitter
Rub his nails in something
bitter. The next time he sticks his fingers into his mouth,
he’ll grimace and remove them immediately.
Speak to your child
Try and gross your child out by
telling him about all the germs and filth in his nails. Tell him
about how harmful nail-biting can be to his health… you could
exaggerate a little, as long as the message gets through.
Don’t nag
Nagging your child about his
habit is not going to help. Remember, nail-biting is the upshot
of the way your child’s brain works and reacts to situations. It
is not willful stubbornness on your child’s part.
Cut the nails
Cut your child’s nails at regular
intervals. Sometimes, if your child’s nails are frayed or
broken, your child may start gnawing on them. This is because
the rough edge tends to make them fidgety, and they’d rather
bite it off. One rough edge too many, and your child might
develop the habit of nail-biting. So keep a check on his nails,
and make sure they are smoothened out.
And finally…
Since the basis of the problem
is psychological, the mental and emotional impediments should
be sifted out and dealt with first - and this can only be done
by giving your child a warm, loving home environment.
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